如题所述
人为什么会有那么多的烦恼啊?
因为人是个体,社会是群体,个体都是独一无二的,群体则是复杂的,所以在群体中难免有你看不惯,听不惯,不习惯,不想做的,不愿看到的,从而让你产生烦恼。
人活着是为了一份责任,为了金钱,为了爱情,那样的生活都太偏激。
这个世界上你有很多朋友,包括我们这些陌生而又回你帖子的人,我觉得你应该调整好自己的心态,把心放在工作,学习,亲请上,经常出去散散心,心情好了,就没烦恼了!
你可以看看卡耐基的 How to s worrying and start living.(中文的好像叫人性的优点)
HOW TO STOP WORRYING AND START LIVING
Part One Fundamental Facts You should Know about Worry
1. If you want avoid worry, do what Sir William Osier did: Live in “ day-tight partments”. Don’t stew about the future. Just live each day until bedtime.
2. The next time Trouble—with a capital T—es gunning for you and backs you up in a corner, try the magic formula of Willis H. Carrier.
a. Ask yourself , “what is the worst that can possibly happen if I can’t solve my problem?”
b. Prepare yourself mentally to aept the worst if necessary.
c. Then calmly try to improve upon the worst——which you have already mentally agreed to aept.
3. Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health. “Busines *** en who do not know how to fight worry die young.”
Part Two Basic Techniques in Analyzing Worry
1. Get the facts. Remember that Dean Hawkes of Columbia University said that “ half the worry in the world is caused by people trying to make decisions before they have sufficient knowledge on which to base a decision.
2. After carefully weighing all the facts, e to a decision.
3. Once a decision is carefully reached , act! Get busy carrying out your decision— and di *** iss all anxiety about the oute.
4. When you , or any your associates are tempted to worry about a problem , write out and answer the following questions:
a. What is the problem?
b. What is the cause of the problem?
c. What are all possible solutions?
d. What is the best solution ?
Part three How to Break the Worry Habit Before It Breaks You
1. Crowd worry out of your mind by keeping busy. Plenty of action is one of the best therapies ever devising for curing “ wibber gibbers”
2. Don’t fuss about trifles. Don’t permit little things— the mere termites of life— to ruin your happiness.
3. Use the law of averages to outlaw your worries. Ask yourself :“What are the odds against this thing’s happening at all?”
4. Cooperate with the inevitable. If you know a circumstances is beyond your power to change or revise , say to yourself :“It is so. It cannot be otherwise.”
5. Put a “s loss” order on your worries . Decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worth—and refuse to give it more .
6. Let the past bury its dead. Don’t saw sawdust.
Part Four
Seven Ways to Cultivate A Mental Attitude That Will Bring You Peace and Happiness
1. Let’s fill our minds with thoughts of peace, courage, health and hope, for “our life is what our thoughts make it.”
2. Let’s try never get even with our enemies, because if we do we will hurt ourselves far more than we hurt them. Let’s do as General Eisenhower does: let’s never waste a minute thinking about the people we don’t like.
3. A. Instead of worrying about ingratitude, let’s expect it. Let’s remember that Jesus healed ten lepers in one day and only one thanked him. Why should we expect more gratitude than Jesus got?
B. Let’s remember the only way to find happiness is not to expect gratitude but to give for the joy of giving.
C. Let’s remember that gratitude is a “ cultivated” trait ; so if we want our children to be grateful , we must train them to be grateful.
4. Count your blessings—not your troubles!
5. Let’s not intimate others. Let’s find ourselves and be ourselves, for “ envy is ignorance” and “ imitation is suicide”.
6. When fate hands us a lemon, let’s try to make a lemonade.
7. Let’s fet our own unhappiness——by trying to create a little happiness for others. “when you are good to others , you are best to yourself.
Part Five The Golden Rule for Conquering Worry
1. Prayer helps us to put into words exactly what is troubling us.
2. Prayer gives us a sense of sharing our burdens, of not being alone.
3. Prayer puts into force an active principle of doing.
Part Six How to Keep from Worrying about Critici ***
1. Unjust critici *** is often a disguised pliment. It often means that you have aroused jealousy and envy. Remember that no one ever kicks a dead dog.
2. Do the very best you can; and then put up your old umbrella and keep the rain of critici *** from running down the back of your neck.
3. Let’s keep a record of the fool things we have done and criticize ourselves. Since we can’t hope to be perfect, let’s do what E. H. Little did: let’s ask for unbiased, helpful, constructive critici *** .
Part Seven Six Ways to Prevent Fatigue and Worry and Keep Your Energy and Spirits High
1. Rest before you get tired.
2. Learn to relax at your work.
3. If you are a housewife, protect your health and appearance by relaxing at home.
4. Apply these four good working habits
a. Clear your desk of all papers except those relating to the problem at hand.
b. Do things in the order of their importance.
c. When you face a problem, solve it then and there if you have the facts necessary to make a decision.
d. Learn to anize, and supervise.
5. To prevent worry and fatigue , put enthusia *** into your work.
6. Remember , no one was ever killed by lack of sleep. It is worrying about insomnia that does the damage——not the insomnia.
Part Nine How to Lessen Your Financial Worries
1. Get the facts down on paper.
2. Get a tailor made budget that really fits your needs!
3. Learn how to spend wisely.
4. Don’t increase your headaches with your ine.
5. Try to build credit, in the event you must borrow.
6. Protect yourself against illness , fire and emergency expenses.
7. Do not let your life insurance proceeds paid to your widow in cash.
8. Teach your children a responsible attitude towards money.
9. If necessary, make a little extra money off your kitchen stove.
10. Don’t gamble ever.
11. If we can’t possibly improve our financial situation, let’s be good to ourselves and s resenting what can’t be changed.
我自己看过得很管用。希望能对你有帮助。
其实中国人的烦恼比较单一,基本和钱有关,再然后是感情。其他方面的话比重较小。
人是感性的,确实没说错,感性让我们拥有更多细腻的感情。但是人还是理性的。理性的我们知道理想和现实的区别,现实是不以人的意志而能随意改变的,这才是烦恼的根源。
人为什么会有那么多的烦恼?
人有思想,有喜怒哀乐,也就会有烦恼
所谓无欲则刚,但是谁又能真正做到无欲无求呢?求而不得便产生了烦恼。但是你不觉得正是因为有烦恼,需要我们自己一个一个去解决烦恼,人生才不会那么无趣吗?如果什么都顺心顺意,那还有什么意思呢?反正无论自己怎样都无所谓,又何来喜怒哀乐的情感呢?人不就是因为有各种情感,因为有痛苦,想要追求快乐,当追到的时候才会产生那种强烈的满足感吗。反正该来的总会来,赶也赶不走,不如顺其自然,兵来将挡水来土掩。祝你快乐
心情决定你是否快乐,心态决定你的高度和境界。现实、残酷的生存环境,情感纠葛,家庭琐事,自己的目的没有达到,自己的欲望没有满足,自己的意愿没有改变什么,看不惯,喜欢较劲都是造成烦恼的原因。
因为有想要的而得不到的而烦恼
您好!我想首先因为人是感性的,是有感情的,是有喜怒哀乐的!还有就是想得太多了!将所有不开心的情事都记在脑海里!就如何人身上背着很重的东西去爬山一样,在刚刚开始爬时感觉还好,可是越爬会觉得东西越重!这时我们就不得放弃身上的一些东西,这样我们才可以继续爬下去!否则只能停止不前,原地踏步啦!
嗯,仔细想想看,现在最困扰你的那样事是什么,然后努力去一个一个的解决,最后所有的事情都迎刃而解后,你就不会像现在这么烦了,你会认为“哦!原来生活也可以如此轻松、如此美好!”
从现在开始行动吧!相信你会做到的!加油!
人为什么会有那么多的烦恼呢?
那是你不懂开心,哪个人没有烦恼
因为人有思想,有感情。我们不是动物,是人。你没有烦恼那里啦的快乐。你应该往双方面想而不是但方面。你难道就没快乐了嘛?怎么就知道有烦恼呀?再悲惨的人生,再悲惨的人她都有快乐,而不是只有烦恼。如果你没有了烦恼你认为你还有快乐吗?没有烦恼的体现你会觉得有快乐吗?我想说的是,人生不可能是完美的,正因为他的不完美才使得我们的人生丰富多彩。而不是一成不变。