6 After the return of the verb "to gift", why have we not found an alternative noun for "gifts"? Perhaps it is because we need some vagueness behind which to conceal unworthy motives, for the sake of other people's feelings as well as our own. Love and gratitude cannot be demanded from anyone. Yet sometimes, for example at Christmas, we want or even need to appear to feel what we do not.
7 A person is grateful to receive a gift precisely to the degree to which he/she realizes that the giver wants to give it, that real benevolence is its meaning. If you "gift" something, offering a present entirely out of duty or convention, do not expect gratitude: Receivers usually know what the present represents. And gratitude is not normally inspired by a duty done.
8 But gratitude is the receiver's to give should he/she want to. In fact, gratitude is like any true gift, both intentional and gratis [free]. In times when duty and politeness seem to be in decline, receivers are capable of being grateful to - and grateful for - people who are dutiful. Therefore, should "gifting" take place at Christmas, people who think ("thank" is related to "think") will be capable of gratitude for "gifting" too.
9 Gifts fit into Christmas because memory and narrative are their medium, as well as caring. Money is not the point. Our son, as a child, once gave us a Pyrex [a kind of very hard glass] lemon squeezer for Christmas, of the kind driven by hand-and-wrist power, with little spikes to catch the pips.
10 For 30 years we have thought of him (on and off, and more or less) every time we squeeze a lemon. The other day the object fell off our kitchen counter and broke. We are both very upset. We'll buy another lemon squeezer of course. But salad-making in our house will never be quite the same again.
7一个人是感激收到礼物精确到何种程度,他/她认识到,送礼者想给它,那是真正的仁其含义。如果你的“礼物”的东西,提供了完全出于义务或约定存在,不要期待感谢:接收器通常知道什么是目前代表。和感谢是不正常的启发由做的责任。
8但感激是接收器的应给予他/她想。其实,任何真正的感激之情是一样的礼物,都故意和免费[免费]。在责任和礼貌时候似乎是在走下坡路,接收器能够被感谢 - 和感谢 - 人谁是孝子。因此,要“送礼”采取在圣诞节的地方,人们谁认为(“感谢”是与“思考”)将能够为感谢“馈赠”了。
9适合的圣诞礼物,因为是他们的记忆和叙述中,以及关怀。钱不是问题的关键。我们的儿子,作为一个孩子,一旦给了我们一个耐热[一个非常硬质玻璃样]柠檬榨汁圣诞带动手和腕功率小高峰,赶点子的那种。
1030年来,我们想到了他(和关闭,以及更多或更少)我们每次挤柠檬。有一天,我们的对象脱落厨房柜台和突破。我们都非常难过。我们当然会再购买柠檬挤压。但在我们的房子沙拉决策永远不会完全一样了。
7人感激收到一份礼物就是在何种程度上他/她意识到想要给人真正的仁学,它的意义。如果你的“礼物”的东西,提供一份礼物完全出于责任或会议,就不要指望感恩:接收器通常知道目前的代表。和感激不是通常的灵感来自一个任务完成。
8但感恩是应该接受者的给他/她想要的。事实上,感恩是真正的礼物,都喜欢免费自由和有意[]。在每一次当责任和礼貌似乎在下降,接收器是能够感激,感激-孝顺。因此,应将“礼物”发生在圣诞节,思考的人(“谢谢”与“想”)将能够感谢“礼物”了。
9因为记忆融入圣诞节礼物和叙事是他们的媒介,以及关怀。钱不是问题的关键。我们的儿子,作为一个孩子,一旦给了我们一个派热克斯耐热[一种非常硬玻璃]柠檬挤压为圣诞节,善良的驱动力量,没有刺hand-and-wrist抓住点子。
10为30年里,我们认为他(和关闭,或多或少的),我们每次挤出一个柠檬。那天我们对象厨房柜台上掉下来摔断了。我们都很伤心。我们会买个柠檬挤压当然。在我们家里,但salad-making将永远不会完全一样的。
他以前就是一个很自卑的人,因此在感情和事业上都没有梦想和追求了!整天活的很没意思,后来听说了费洛蒙有一款叫【贞迪】,他就是抱着试试的态度,结果很真是神了,从那以后有女人缘了,事业上更是有了很大的前景了....
7人感激收到一份礼物就是在何种程度上他/她意识到想要给人真正的仁学,它的意义。如果你的“礼物”的东西,提供一份礼物完全出于责任或会议,就不要指望感恩:接收器通常知道目前的代表。和感激不是通常的灵感来自一个任务完成。
8但感恩是应该接受者的给他/她想要的。事实上,感恩是真正的礼物,都喜欢免费自由和有意[]。在每一次当责任和礼貌似乎在下降,接收器是能够感激,感激-孝顺。因此,应将“礼物”发生在圣诞节,思考的人(“谢谢”与“想”)将能够感谢“礼物”了。
9因为记忆融入圣诞节礼物和叙事是他们的媒介,以及关怀。钱不是问题的关键。我们的儿子,作为一个孩子,一旦给了我们一个派热克斯耐热[一种非常硬玻璃]柠檬挤压为圣诞节,善良的驱动力量,没有刺手和手腕
t抓住点子。
10为30年里,我们认为他(和关闭,或多或少的),我们每次挤出一个柠檬。那天我们对象厨房柜台上掉下来摔断了。我们都很伤心。我们会买个柠檬挤压当然。在我们家里,但说和做将永远不会完全一样的